June 17, 2020

Looking After Your Mental Health in the Coronavirus Crisis

Nick Everything Else events, health 7 Comments

At the risk of stating the obvious, the last few months have been stressful for all of us.

As mentioned in this post last month, a YouGov survey in May found that over a third of respondents (39%) reported a decline in their mental health since March 2020, when the lockdown and other anti-virus measures started. A month on, it’s quite likely that figure would be even higher.

I’ve certainly noticed that I am feeling more stressed and anxious than usual, and I’m luckier than many. Although I live alone, I do have a large house and garden, and also have the advantage of years of experience of working from home. How people in tower block flats have been coping is hard to imagine, particularly if they have young children they are home-schooling as well.

I was keen to find out what methods other people are using to preserve their mental health in these challenging times, so I asked some fellow UK money bloggers what worked for them. I was intrigued by their varied replies, so I’ve set out their comments below. I’ll share some of my own thoughts and experiences afterwards

What Are Other Bloggers Doing?

Emma from Bee Money Savvy says, ‘Writing lists has been my saviour these last few months. I get down if I don’t feel like I’ve achieved much in a day, so having a list of things I’ve managed to do (even small things like eating a healthy breakfast or putting a wash on) has helped me feel somewhat productive and more positive about the day I’ve had.’

Bex from How to B Welthy says her strategies include reading self help books e.g. Good Vibes, Good Life, along with breathing exercises, meditation, getting a good night’s sleep and going out for a walk. She adds that she suffers with mental health issues constantly, though, not just in lockdown.

Collette from Cashback Collette writes, ‘Ive been trying really hard to get outdoors at least once a day either for a walk or a jog – sometimes with my fiance or on my own to clear my head and get some fresh air and vitamin D. I’ve also found I’m in a much better mood and feel more positive on days I speak to friends and family, so I have been chatting to them as much as possible.’

Claire from Money Saving Central says, ‘I have been having an hour to myself in the garden or upstairs every day, once my partner gets in from work. I am not used to all this background noise of iPads, TVs, and children whilst I am trying to work. I really need to sit quietly for just an hour to let my head breathe.’

Blogging duo Joleisa from Joleisa.com say, ‘We have been doing two things really to help us keep sane: crafting, and checking in virtually on elderly friends. We’ve always thought that showing concern for others gives you a boost too.‘

Jennifer from Monethalia says, ‘What’s really helping me is exercising every morning. I’ve never been a gym person but since lockdown happened, I’ve started doing home workouts.’

Nicola from The Frugal Cottage says, ‘I’ve been trying to stay in a routine and focus on finding something positive each day. This is easier on some days than others!’

Pete from Household Money Saving says, ‘I have been watching old box sets on Netflix. I’ve found it comforting to watch something familiar that reminds me of calmer times.’

Charlotte of Charlotte Musha says, ‘Gardening and in particular weeding have been the best thing for my mental health during lockdown. It’s one of those small jobs that make a big difference, so you always feel like you’ve achieved something.’

Laura from Harley Counselling writes, ‘I’m a talking therapist and counsellor, and one of the top tips I’m giving to my clients is to actively build a positive structure into their routine. Designating certain days for activities which we know are good for us gives us a sense of rhythm and familiarity. Things like going for a walk or run, meditation, reading, journalling or gardening can be really restorative and give us space to order our thoughts.’

Katie from Student Skint says, ‘The first 6-8 weeks it was running errands to help give me a reason to get out of the house. But now since rules have eased a bit, it’s making plans to see other people. I find that if I have plans with a friend (or friends) a couple of times a week then it feels more ‘normal’ because I’m seeing and speaking to the people I usually would in person.’

Dan from The Financial Wilderness writes, ‘I meditate. Personally I use the Headspace app which is fantastic, but there are other great resources both free and paid out there.
I always though meditation was a bit, er, ‘woo-woo’ and was deeply skeptical, but I can honestly say after trying it for some time I really notice the benefits, feel calmer and am able to control my thoughts a lot better.’ Dan adds, ‘I am also really enjoying picking up my PlayStation again. I loved gaming throughout my teens but find life is often too busy to be able to – it’s been lovely to rediscover that pleasure.’

Zoe of Eco-Thrifty Living comments, ‘I wrote a blog post about how to deal with anxiety on a budget. I have suffered from anxiety and panic attacks in the past and have found things that have helped me. They include doing CBT – I link to some free online self help workbooks in the post, running, drawing and doing a risk register. Not mentioned in the post, but I also find hypnotherapy downloads can be really helpful.’

Joseph who blogs at Thrifty Chap says, ‘Photography. I have a photography YouTube channel and have previous discussed how my mental health benefits from it.’

Bear from Save Like a Bear writes, ‘For me it’s a combination of things: 1. Spending 99% of my social media time on 1-1 conversations rather than anxious scroll holes.
2. Taking a time out to cook dinner from scratch every night no matter how busy I think I am. This has been a good way to get creative and use up what’s in the cupboards because of shopping very rarely too.
3. I’ll echo all the great comments above about what a difference a bit of daily exercise/fresh air/vitamin D makes. I use those walks to listen to podcasts so learning something each day feels like a productive distraction.
4. Having a shutdown routine at night because sleep is so important.
5. This is a very money blogger thing to do, but I had a financial audit and made sure my money was exactly where I wanted it/changed a few systems. It’s one way to feel in control when the world is out of control.‘

Si of Financial Expert says, ‘I’ve been using the Headspace app for 10 minutes each morning to gain a 10 minute window of calm before I begin work. It must be working, as it’s three months in and I now look forward to it.’

Nicola from My Savings Journal says, ‘I’ve tried to let go of my own self-imposed ideas on how productive I should be and the desire to maximise every moment of my time. Instead, I’ve let myself explore hobbies, enjoyed time working on my blog, and tried new ways of keeping my home organised. It’s definitely helped to keep my anxiety and stress levels at bay, as well as creating a new “normal” in terms of balancing relaxation with productivity.’

Michelle from Time and Pence says, ‘I have made sure that we, as a family, have gone out on regular long walks so we have plenty of time out of the house. I believe that has been the real key to coping. While at home, lots of gardening, video chats and games with family and friends. And also we bought my son a keyboard for his lockdown birthday so we’ve all enjoyed learning how to play using tutorials on YouTube.’ And she adds, ‘My mom is shielding due to COPD and she ordered herself lots of painting by numbers, with all the equipment. She set herself a little art studio up at home and she has loved it. It’s made a massive difference to her.’

Rhian of Rhian Westbury says, ‘To keep my mental health high during this period I try and maintain a routine. I need to maintain a good sleeping pattern to maintain good mental health so I wake up every morning at near enough the same time as I would if I was going into the office. And I don’t stay up really late and maintain my normal bedtime. The routine helps me to continue as much as normal during this time.’

Emma of TuppenysFIREplace says, ‘We moved to the Lake District last year so we could spend more time on the fells, only to find they’ve been closed since lockdown. We are not used to being together quite so much so decided we needed to plan our days to counter this. We have regular ‘date nights’ at home where we dress up as if we were going out, and we have at least one TV/internet-free night so we can focus on quality time together. Makes up for the little spats that happen during the day!’

Finally, Marie who blogs at Broke Girl in the City shared a link to her post titled Coronavirus: Top Tips For Coping With Anxiety and Stress. Number one in this is Be Kind to Yourself, a piece of advice I do very much agree with (see below).

Thank you very much to all my money blogging colleagues for sharing their thoughts. I do hope you found them as interesting as I did, and they may have given you one or two ideas for coping strategies you could try as well.

• One thing that did surprise me a bit is that nobody mentioned baking, which I know has been very popular during lockdown. I was also surprised that there was little mention of video gaming, as I hear lots of people during this time have been escaping into the virtual worlds of Animal Crossing (see picture below), Stardew Valley, Minecraft and so on 🙂

My Own Coping Strategies

So what have I been doing to try to preserve my sanity through this challenging period?

As mentioned in my earlier update, I am finding daily walks therapeutic. I especially enjoy a walk after breakfast, and intend to keep this going even after the crisis is over.

Like many of my fellow bloggers (see above) I find it helpful to have a daily routine. After I return from my walk, I generally do a few hours’ work, usually on the blog or any other paid work (writing, editing or proofreading) I may have. I try to stop at lunch time and do other things from then on, though – I am meant to be semi-retired, after all!

I aim to speak to somebody every day, if not in person then over the phone or (occasionally) via Skype. Living alone I think that’s super-important. In the afternoons I go for another walk, or shopping, or spend some time working/relaxing in the garden.

I have a love-hate relationship with social media nowadays. On the one hand, it can be great for keeping in touch with friends and family, and I also use it as a source of news and information. On the other hand, with Twitter especially, there can be a lot of negativity, rudeness and even outright hatred (especially when politics raises its head). If I spend too long there I can feel my stress levels start to rise. I try to limit my time on social media – and recommend everyone else does likewise – but that isn’t always easy, as it pulls you in insidiously.

In the evenings I usually make an effort to cook something nice rather than relying on convenience foods (though they have their place). As mentioned before I typically seek out some escapist entertainment in the evening. This often involves watching one or two episodes of a box-set, even if it’s something I’ve already seen. Recently I have been re-watching the detective series Bergerac with John Nettles which – as you probably know – is set on Jersey. I enjoy the stories but also the lovely island scenery, which reminds me of holidays there and in Guernsey with Jayne in happier times.

• Finally, when I am feeling particularly anxious, I find CBD Oil for Anxiety helpful for calming me down and helping to get a restful night’s sleep. Based on my experience it’s definitely worth a try!

Further Advice

I think my top tip to anyone who is struggling with their mental health at the moment is don’t be afraid to reach out for support if you need it. Speak to friends and family, and to health professionals if appropriate. There is also some great advice about looking after your mental health during the pandemic at www.mind.org.uk/coronavirus.

Money – or the lack of it – can obviously cause stress as well. The YouGov survey mentioned earlier found that nearly a quarter of people (24%) are avoiding talking about finances with friends and family, for fear of burdening them or making them anxious. The same survey also found that 36% of people said that the pandemic had already had a negative impact on their personal finances, with 35% trying to cut costs during lockdown.

As I have said before, talking to someone about your financial worries can be very helpful. Personally I’m a fan of having a personal financial adviser (here’s a link to my blog post about why – despite being a money blogger – I have a personal financial adviser). But even if you don’t, talking to friends and family about money matters can help you put things into perspective and reduce levels of stress and anxiety. You may also enjoy reading reading this article (in which i am quoted) about how to cope with common causes of stress.

Above all else, though, be kind to yourself, and don’t suffer in silence. And equally, if you know someone who may be struggling – or you just haven’t seen or heard from them for a while – reach out by phone or at least message them to check they are okay. It may be a cliche, but we really are all in this together. And pretty much everyone is struggling in their own way.

So that’s how I and my fellow UK money bloggers are getting through our days at the moment. But I’d love to hear what works for you. Are you baking for Britain or painting pebbles, writing your memoirs or tending your virtual island? Please post any comments or questions below as usual!